We all know that little inner voice—the one that whispers (or yells, depending on the day): “This isn’t right for you”, “You’re exhausted”, or “You don’t have to say yes to everything”. And yet, how often do we ignore it—to please others, avoid conflict, or simply out of fear of seeming selfish?
Let’s listen to that voice. It’s not trying to pull us away from others—it’s trying to bring us closer to ourselves.
Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s being clear
Selfishness means acting at the expense of others, always putting yourself first without caring about the impact. Setting boundaries says: “Here’s what I can offer—without losing myself in the process.” Big difference.
Saying no to one more project, a night out you don’t have energy for, or someone who’s overstepping isn’t rejection—it’s self-respect. And it allows you to be present where it really matters.
How to listen to your inner voice (without sounding all mystical)
- Pause when something feels off. That discomfort or sudden fatigue? Those are signals.
- Ask yourself what you need—not what others expect. Your well-being matters too.
- State your boundaries clearly and without guilt. A respectful “no” is worth more than a reluctant “yes”.
Listening to your inner voice is an act of clarity and self-kindness. Setting boundaries is how you build healthier relationships and a more authentic life. It’s not about turning away from the world—it’s about showing up with more intention and peace.
And you—what’s the boundary your inner voice has been trying to get you to set… for a while now?
